Life in the Algarve, as in anywhere else, presents us with a rich tapestry of experiences. As the Anglican priest here, my week often reflects this more than most. This June, I find myself preparing for four weddings – occasions bursting with hope, joy, and the promise of new beginnings. There will be smiles and laughter – not to mention a glass or two of Prosecco – and the coming together of families and friends in wonderful celebration.
Yet, amidst this happiness, there is also the solemnity of a funeral to attend to. It’s a stark reminder that the dance of life inevitably includes moments of sorrow. There’s a poignant Jewish saying that comes to mind: ‘If you laugh at a lot of weddings, you will cry at a lot of funerals.’ It speaks to a fundamental truth of the human condition. When we open our hearts to love, to connection, to sharing in the deepest joys of others and with others, we also expose ourselves to the possibility, and indeed the certainty, of pain and loss. As one friend of mine once put it, ‘as I get older, I am more exposed to loss’.
This isn’t a cause for despair, but a gentle nudge to appreciate the present, enjoy the moment, carpé diem. The church, in its role within this community, is here for it all, not just in the summer either – for the vows of commitment and the tears of parting, for the festa and for the quiet reflection. We are here to celebrate with you in your happiest moments, and to offer comfort and support when sadness inevitably arrives.
So, as we embrace the joyous occasions this month brings, let’s hold onto the laughter, cherish the time with loved ones, and savour the simple pleasure of being together. And let’s also remember that in the face of life’s inevitable sorrows, we are not alone. The community is here, and faith offers a light even in the darkest times. Enjoy the good days and hold them close; they are precious precisely because they are part of a journey that includes both sunshine and shadow.
God bless
Fr Rob Kean is the Anglican Chaplain of St Vincent’s Chaplaincy (Igreja Nossa Senhora da Luz)
